Archive for May, 2010


Fault line

May 13, 2010

I’m using a play on words here. Reading some Jack Canfield lately I was struck with something quite wise. In a very succinct nutshell he expounded on the importance of taking blame for your own actions/decisions/trends/downfalls/good fortunes in life. Everything you did or didn’t do was a result of an action (or inaction) which you took. Nobody forced you to take that horrible job.  Nobody forced you to marry (or stay with) that person.  Nobody is stopping you from pursuing anything.  Nobody told you you cannot succesfully comprehend your financial situation. These are all choices you made. To bring this into an incongruous analogy: Did your advisor tell you to cash out too soon? Did he/she tell you to buy an RRSP? Did he/she tell you to take on two more credit cards? Did he/she tell you to buy commodities at the bottom of the market?  You may have had someone try to sell you on these choices, but unless you have a fully managed account-the realm of high net-worth clients only-you inevitably made the decision. Should you make these decisions on a whim?  A whim will usually result only in random outcomes as I have found to be true in life. It is random, like risk, and as a result may have its highs and lows (some may argue that its related exclusively to random fluctuations). You wonder why you are unhappy with a life floating far above and below your benchmark; spinning magically outside of your control: at times negatively and at other times positively. If you constantly live in the negative of your benchmark you must come to the conclusion that your choices are skewed incorrectly. For you the high highs cannot sustain you and you learn to ignore them (again through choice). It is, however, neither random nor fate. You simply have not realized that you can control all of it by actually making the right decision(s). Then, when you do, you’re told (mostly by yourself) that you can’t. It’s not that you can’t, you’re just deciding to listen to that. There’s no substance to the word ‘can’t.’ It’s has no physical substance. Being, at best, some metaphysical entity it is simply a counter choice to the real decision. We find it easier to manufacture substance to it (at great effort I add) than to simply tackle the easier, and more positive, “can.” There’s no measurable truth to each. Both are equally achievable. You simply have to make more effective decisions by putting in the effort in the direction you want. Again, there are no actual restrictions. Take control, or if you so desire, make sure you understand the end decisions you agree to. Then declare what you want. Make the decision and visualize it happening. Tackle your important issues on the knowledge of the unending positive and you’ll come out ahead.